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There is so much violence in this world, but one of the worst is abuse. Whether it’s verbal or physical, abuse is something no one should have to endure. Finding that one person you can love and trust, then having that person turn out to verbally or physically abuse you is the worst feeling in the world.

Anyone who berates or belittles you in front of family or friends is an abuser. Anyone who yells, screams, calls you names, disrespects you, pushes you around, or hits you is an abuser. This is a person you need to get away from before the abuse gets to the point where your life is ruined or you are dead.

Men will abuse women to the point where the woman is so afraid of what will happen if she leaves that she never does, suffering in silence for years. He will tell her how ugly or fat she is, how she can’t take care of the children, can’t cook, can’t clean, can’t do anything right. He will give her rules she HAS to follow. Tells her what she can order when they out to dinner. Most of this type of abuse is never reported because most people don’t believe this is abuse. To them abuse is physical or sexual. Not always true. Most abusers are men, but there are some women who “rule the roost” and dictate to their man.

Emotional abuse means: you are being treated like a child, need to have permission for even small decisions, need to “walk on eggshells” around your abuser, need to hide your true feelings so the abuser won’t attack you, or you give in to all the abuser’s demands leaving little of yourself to be shown to the outside world. Everything is your fault. You can’t do anything right but you continue to try to please the abuser.

Abusers can be totally controlling, stalkers who will follow you everywhere, call you all the time no matter where you are, control the finances so tightly you have to ask for money, punish you by not giving you any affection, or creating rules for you to follow when they won’t. Don’t think you can “fix” the abuser. You can’t. Most need to seek professional help. The best thing you can do is to get away from the abuser. There are places you can go for help. The best advice: don’t continue to take the abuse. You can have a better life without your abuser.